1011. It is good to be children sometimes, and never better than at Christmas when its mighty Founder was a child Himself. ~Charles Dickens

Were I a philosopher, I should write a philosophy of toys,
showing that nothing else in life need be taken seriously,
and that Christmas Day in the company of children is one
of the few occasions in which men become entirely alive.
~Robert Lynd

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Life grew very hard for me in my late 30‘s, and the difficulties spilled over well into my forties. As a result I was becoming more and more cynical about “life, love, and the pursuit of happiness.” Those circumstances were made worse by the 20 year derailment in my faith journey and both were aiding and abetting a steady, downward spiral into the “black abyss” of hopelessness. So my doctor recommended that I go see a counselor, and I did, but reluctantly at first. Though it wasn’t long before I warmed to her, it took a while longer before I started really opening up about the burdensome issues that had brought me to her door. Then one afternoon as the session was about to end, she said, “I want you to imagine that you are a 4 year old child.” I replied, “Okay,” and then she asked, “If you were that 4 year old, what would want to do right this very minute?” Without too much consideration, I blurted out, “go get a chocolate ice-cream cone.” After hearing my response she immediately stood up, smiled, and said, “All right. I shall see you next week and TODAY on the way home I want you to stop and have a chocolate ice cream cone.” When I started to ask why, she quickly replied, “Just do it. I’ll explain next time.” So I stopped and got the chocolate ice cream cone, and I do have to say that it might possibly have been the very best ice cream cone I’ve ever had. The point was and is that the child in all of us doesn’t die. It’s simply that the accumulating years of growing and changing cover over him or her as happens with a path no longer traveled. And so it was that miraculously after clearing the way with one weekly ice cream cone after the other, the healing of my brokenness got under way, the getting back on track with my faith journey got under way, and the nourishing of my starving inner child, who was essential in restoring joy, hopefulness, and a sense of wonder, also got under way. Praise the Lord!

Happy, happy Christmas, that can win us back to the delusions of our childish days; that can recall to the old man the pleasures of his youth; that can transport the sailor and the traveller, thousands of miles away, back to his own fire-side and his quiet home! ~Charles Dickens 

And the angel said to them, “Fear not, for behold, I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all people.” ~Luke 2:10  ✝

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27 thoughts on “1011. It is good to be children sometimes, and never better than at Christmas when its mighty Founder was a child Himself. ~Charles Dickens

  1. I really like how “you spill your guts,” Natalie. I admire your learning the importance of seeking help from a counselor and also expressing your inner child. Getting ice cream or doing something for oneself is important.
    If we cannot respect our own selves how can we expect others to respect us? Loving thy neighbor as ourselves loses the value of following this important thought if we dislike (or loathe) ourselves. Great but tough message here, Natalie. ♡♡

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    • Oh thank you, Robin. Our life stories are what makes us real and able to help others. My counselor, Lynn, gave me back whole pieces of my self and together they’ve helped tremendously to put little humpty dumpty back together again. Thank you for your kind and loving comment, my friend. Love and hugs, N 🙂 ❤

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  2. Oh, Natalie, I think this is why I have become a child again. I had such a long, difficult childhood, rocky young adulthood, and as soon as I became myself, I decided to finally become a child again. A happy, carefree child filled with laughter. I am so glad I was able to achieve this goal, at least most of the time. Still on rocky shores at times, but each time I turn something difficult into something I can laugh at, it is so much easier to live with the horrors of MS and the realities of life in this cruel world of war, terrorism, and man’s inhumanity to each other. I saw the counselors also, but in the end, I had to make my own choices without help, because they all were the drug happy pushers, and I prefer having my brain drug free and working with me at all times — unless I am high on life, a common thing with me. Thank you for sharing this with us. HUGS from KY. A.

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    • Oh, I love that my inner child is alive and well, Angie. I liked the wee lass and am so glad she didn’t perish. My counselor, Lynn, was wonderful and was definitely a God-send. I shudder to think what would have happened to me had the Lord not brought me to Himself and her. I love you, my friend and am so glad you’ve made it through your tough times too. 🙂 ❤

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      • My counselor, the only one who helped, was Kay, and she was the best. I’ve recommended her to so many others who are trying to find their way now. I also love my inner child, and she is now out and in the open, and making us all laugh and enjoy life. Each time you get a chuckle from my blog, you are hearing her, now that she is out and testing her wings, before she flies off the face of this earth. Oh yes, I’ve made it thru, and I’m so happy you have also. Isn’t it fun to laugh? God has been so good to me, and I am so happy now, and so blessed to have so much, while others are still struggling to find the happiness I never take for granted, but accept thankfully each day. I love you also dear friend, we’ve come thru fire, and now can find green fields and sunshine. And maybe some snow on days we can remain inside looking out. Hugs. A.

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  3. I love your revealing your coming into what you always were but got lost along the way. We do need to ‘feed’ our inner child so it can thrive and keep us happy through out our lives. This is a great post and love the pic you chose.

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    • Thank you, V. I believe most, if not all, of us get side-tracked at times and need loving nudges to get us back on track. We must no waste our stories as there are those who hear them and that need to know they are not alone. Love and hugs, 🙂 ❤

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  4. first of all, when I saw your post, I immediately smiled–the “vintage” image of the little girl, a throwback to that which once was, a time better, a time seemingly more innocent, I was immediately happy for the nano second when seeing the image.
    Reading your story was heart warming and intimate–and truth be told, a tale not far from the lives lived of those of us, your readers—we’ve all been derailed at one point or another by this thing we call life—the key is figuring out how to reclaim it— and you my friend, offer those of us the before, the during and the glory of the after—Thank you—hugs and love—and I think I’m off to get some peppermint ice-cream–a not needed indulgence I bought at the grocery store the other day…..
    Hugs and love—cookie

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    • Oh, I love peppermint ice cream. I’ve haven’t had or seen any in years. I’ll bet your inner child is a happy camper now. I know mine would be. Thank you for the comment as I know how full your plate is right now. Love and hugs, Natalie 🙂 ❤

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  5. Love your choice of photos for this post:) Finishing up Saturday night from watching “It’s a Wonderful Life” and a big bowl of my favorite ice cream, pistachio almond! Following our Great Physicians advice, to be like little children:) I tear up every time I watch “It’s A Wonderful Life”, for like your card in the photo, it is a glimpse into the time and life of the American our our parents lived. The movie, like the ice cream, restores the peace and joy of childhood:) blessings, d

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    • Oh, Denise, my husband loves that movie too, and he has watched it every Christmas since we got married 52 years ago. I think I probably know the dialog by heart. And I absolutely adore Pistachio and almond ice cream. I so wish I had some now too. I’m glad you like the image I chose as it respresents the era I grew up in and so wish had not vanished. It was indeed a time of greater peace and joy and innocence. Hugs and blessings, N 🙂 ❤

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  6. A good reminder that emotional healing is a process and counseling takes time. It’s good that you gave your healing the time needed. We all have things to work through and it often helps to have someone objective to guide us.

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    • Thank you, Zee, and I’m so glad that it resonated with you and filled a need. I’m not exactly sure why I felt compelled to tell that story. I really just started out intending to talk about Christmas always bringing out the child in us. But if you benefitted from in any way, I’m so glad God prompted me to share my story. Much love and huge hugs, my friend. 🙂 ❤

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