1035. To give vent now and then to his/her feelings, whether of pleasure or discontent, is a great ease to a woman’s/man’s heart. ~Edited quote by Francesco Guicciardini

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Clouds open up into rain,
You too should release your pain.
~Terri Guillemets

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We are dealing with the probability of something very, very sad for James and I. Our daughter’s husband quit his job before Christmas, and he has applied and interviewed with a place in Colorado Springs, Colorado, a job that he really, really wants and for which he is well-qualified. After the interview last Friday, they told him there were 3, including him, that would be considered for the job and that they would let him know this week. Nikki is our only child and so this is an extremely difficult prospect for both James and I, but my husband is taking it harder than I am at least for now. We feel like we’re just waiting for an axe to fall that will cut us off from them and our grandchildren. At this point James can barely talk about it or consider their suggestion that we move there with them if Chris gets the job and they decide to go. What makes it traumatic in a way for James, is that he and his brother were abandoned by their mother after she and his dad divorced. She just didn’t come home one day nor did she leave a note of any kind. So the two of them were taken in by their grandparents where they lived until they finished school. Needless to say, what his mother did left a deep scar in James’ heart and psyche which keeps him from dealing well with any kind of separation, and I’m hurting as much for him in this as I am at the possible move of our daughter and her family to Colorado. Intellectually we know that they have a right to their own life wherever that might be, that we truly do want them to be happy, and that things will work out for the best, but right now our hurting hearts are overriding anything our mind has to say about it all. So if I seen distant or not too responsive this week, please forgive me, but aching hearts sometimes struggle just to breathe.

…“Why does your face look so sad when you are not ill? This can be nothing but sadness of heart.” ~Excerpt from Nehemiah 2:2  ✝

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46 thoughts on “1035. To give vent now and then to his/her feelings, whether of pleasure or discontent, is a great ease to a woman’s/man’s heart. ~Edited quote by Francesco Guicciardini”

  5. I pray God will give you the insight to deal with this challenging change if it comes to fruition. May He guide your hearts, minds and being to deal with this wisdom. Love and prayers for you, James and your family.

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  6. I am sorry my friend for the heaviness and uncertainty—amazing the baggage we carry buried in our hearts which so often rears its ugly head—all of which is most often residue from the ravages of our childhood and family….
    The amazing thing is that God is in the before and after of all of this—He already sees and knows how this story will play out—with care and love for all members of this family—prayers and supportive love from Georgia

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  8. It’s tough being away from family, I know all about that. 💖. When in these situations I just tell God that I leave everything in His hands, and I trust that He will know what is best for me, and then I accept the outcome no matter what, knowing that if God wants me to do something it must be for the best, and there will be a hidden blessing in there that I can’t see now. 💖. I always think about Heidi in the classic children’s book when I face these challenges, she felt that being in Frankfurt was the end of the world, but afterwards she saw that it had really been her greatest blessing, and that a lot of things would not have happened if she had not gone there. It is a simple lesson, but nevertheless a powerful one, for me at least 💖💖💖. Sending you lots of love and prayers 💖💖.

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    • Thank you, Trini! I know God has this and all things in His hands and will work them out for good. And if I trusted him as much as I should, I would worry not nor hurt not. But James and I are mere mortals and aging ones at that. I pray we’ll right ourselves soon, but in the meantime, we’ll hurt a little longer. I do appreciate your taking the time to tell me your story and to lift us up of our pity party. 🙂 ❤

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  10. Natalie, I’m so sorry. I know that there are no words for times like these. I hope and pray for both you and James to be comforted by His warm embrace and peace that passes all understanding. I will be praying for you two my friend.
    Love and hugs. ❤

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  13. Your daughter, husband, children, James and you are in my prayers, now and as long as it takes until the answer reveals itself. Many if my friends deal well with long distance grandchildren, Natalie. One lives here in Ohio but loves her trips to Alaska to see her grandies. Another has daughter in Boston and another in New York. I am careful not to brag since mine are here. Sometimes children take grandparents for granted when available often. Shared travels and visits can bring dimension to their lives. . .
    Here’s my best attempt to console and hope give a bit of comfort. I was sorry to hear of your James and losing his mother like that, her choosing this was so sad and no offense to him, cruel. Blessings and hugs sent in heaps!! ♡♡

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  15. I sensed something was wrong the last week or so but didn’t want to pry. So sorry your hearts are hurting.

    Sending hugs and comfort in the knowledge that the heavenly Father always works things out for the best even if we can’t understand His motives and methods.

    Draw close to Him and let Him comfort you both.

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  16. It is hard to cope with. My daughter moved to Wellington to go to college. It was my first Christmas without her so I know how you feel. On the one hand you don’t want to stand in their way. On the other hand you will lose so much. I also spent a considerable time overseas with only letters that took a week to arrive so that the news is old by the time you read it. I am so grateful for Skype so that I can actually see her in person as well as talk to her. That makes a huge difference. My prayers are with you Natalie.

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  19. Thanks for sharing your story Natalie and best wishes for you and your family. I hope that however things may turn out that you and your husband overcome the feelings of separation and know that your child will always there for you both.

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    • You’re welcome. Thank you for you comment and well wishes for me and my family. My husband has reached a level of peace and acceptance now thankfully. But it’s still hard for both of us and will be for a while I expect. Love and hugs, N 🙂 ❤

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