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**Painting is “Golden Tears” by Gustav Klimt

My daughter and her family have been in town since last Wednesday. It was the first time we had spent a good amount of time with them in months, and we had a very good time together as always. But it is very sad when they have to leave which they did this afternoon. And so tonight I find myself feeling very sad not only because they have gone back home but again because of the profound affect the assaults he endured have had on my oldest grandson. Though he is making a good come back, he still has grief to manage, hurdles to surmount, and a loss that can never be repaid or undone. And once again I find myself not only sad but angry and struggling with not wishing any ill will or harm  to his predator. So it is that my tears “are words the mouth can’t say nor can the heart bear.”(Joshua Wisenbaker) And regret comes again knowing that “every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.”(Henry Wadsworth Longfellow ) But I shall sign off and go to bed telling myself that “sadness gives depth. Happiness gives height. Sadness gives roots. Happiness gives branches. Happiness is like a tree going into the sky, and sadness is like the roots going down into the womb of the earth. Both are needed, and the higher a tree goes, the deeper it goes, simultaneously. The bigger the tree, the bigger will be its roots. In fact, it is always in proportion. That’s its balance.” (Osho)

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  1. “every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.” (Henry Wadsworth Longfellow )
    You have remarkable depth and insight and your grandson is lucky to have you near him. You give unconditional love, help when accepted, and this is SO much to give.
    I am sure he is in therapy, but if not, and if he will consent, now is the time it will be the most helpful.
    Everyone suffers, but some more, earlier. The often suffer secretly. Because of course, they feel ashamed and embarrassed. They don’t want everyone to know their pain. It makes them feel more vulnerable. We need to intensely respect their desire for privacy and confidentiality. Trust is healing.

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    • He was hospitalized for 5 months and is out now and still being treated Cindy. And he is doing well most of the time. No child should have to go through what happened to him. But God has been with him and all of us through this ordeal! And I know He will stay with him and somehow use what he endured for His purposes. Thank you for your thoughts and compassionate understanding❣️😘

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  8. You are always in my heart. Your beautiful words are so touching and heartfelt. May God continue to bless you and may you consequently continue to bless us with the beauty and power of your words. My prayers are with you and your family – especially your grandson.

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  11. Reblogged this on Anything is Possible! and commented:
    Sadness gives roots. Happiness gives branches. Happiness is like a tree going into the sky, and sadness is like the roots going down into the womb of the earth. Both are needed, and the higher a tree goes, the deeper it goes, simultaneously. The bigger the tree, the bigger will be its roots. In fact, it is always in proportion. That’s its balance.” (Osho)

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